My Happiness Formula

  'Happiness' is a tricky word.  This famous Nathaniel Hawthorne quote sums up the attitude of many to that ever-elusive monarch butterfly, happiness: Happiness is like a butterfly which, when pursued, is always beyond our grasp, but which, if you will sit down quietly, may alight upon you. Happiness is like a butterfly: the more you chase it, the more...[ read more ]

Allowing Oneself to Write Badly

American poet, novelist and short story writer, Charles Bukowski (and Elvis Presley of American wild masculine, nakedly gritty, down-and-out, beer-drunk and still shining with true heart literature), dedicated his final completed work, Pulp, to bad writing. Inspired by this, I wrote, Dedicated to Bad Writing . . . For Bad People on the outside of one of my old journal...[ read more ]

Therapy in a Time of Climate Crisis

You’ve probably been made to feel at some point in your life that there is something “wrong” with you for feeling anxious, angry, or sad. I always take the tack that you feel anxious, angry, or sad (very likely) because there is something right with you. This kind of approach to mental health and human emotions takes on particular dimensions of...[ read more ]

The Law of Attraction and Mental Health

I am sure my readers are all aware of the film, The Secret, which came out in 2016 and became a massive cultural phenomenon.  For those of you who are not aware or not too familiar, the film introduces and explicates a metaphysical principle, or law, commonly referred to as 'the law of attraction'.  To put it simply it is the...[ read more ]

Feminine-ist Entrepreneurship, Part I

Let me first clarify what I mean by "feminine-ist".  And let me offer this disclaimer at the outset: I will be using the word "feminine" to describe an actual kind of energy or way of being in the world.  I know that the words "masculine" and "feminine" are so heavily charged with cultural crapola that many prefer to never use...[ read more ]

The Violence of Interpretation

I know this is an intense title. Just stick with me for a minute. I chose the word "violence" because it feels most appropriate, although it is important to understand that what we are talking about here is incredibly subtle.   In my work as a clinician, and as a therapist in private practice, I found early on that I...[ read more ]

Why Red?

Since the Kali dream, red has become more than just a color to me. Now it is charged with far more meaning. It represents the sacredness of the body, birth, and sexuality. It represents the generosity of a broken-open heart that radiates unfaltering love like an uncapped fire hydrant. Red represents the kind of love that reaches the places where...[ read more ]

Maybe Art IS Magic

Photo by Capri23auto It seems like a hunger for magic or enchantment has become a part of the Zeitgeist, beginning with the unexpected cultural tidal wave of Harry Potter after the debut of the original books in the late 90s and early 2000s. I suspect some deeper, pre-existing hunger was cracked open and revealed by this phenomenon, and it only...[ read more ]

Demystifying Therapy Fees

The intention of this article is to promote transparency and understanding around therapy fees. It seems therapists often don't openly discuss with clients the reasons for their fee, nor the back-end work involved in providing that one hour (or 50 minutes) of therapy. I'm not sure whether this is considered radical, but it seems healthy (to me) to make this...[ read more ]

e. e. cummings on Being Yourself

"To be nobody but yourself in a world which is doing its best, night and day, to make you everybody else - means to fight the hardest battle which any human being can fight; and never stop fighting." -e. e. cummings I had posted this on my bathroom mirror once. It seemed like the kind of thing that needed to...[ read more ]

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